Surely it cannot be this complicated. Are we purposely complicating things now a days so that we can avoid a social stigma associated with “dating” or perhaps we’re all trying to avoid ending up like our parents and use these terms to mark the independence of our generation?
talk = getting the basics (name, age, etc)
hanging out = doing a non sexual activity together (eating, drinking, bowling, seeing a movie, etc)
hooking up = trial run (seeing if there is chemistry for dating or needs/wants some action)
dating = serious, the real deal
I think you missed the meeting. “Dating” is just consistently seeing the other person in a more than friends context. Ive been told numerous times you can date multiple people at one time. (Always me being one of the multiple people.) So I think that your dating is what most would call “Being in a relationship.”
I also think that your definition of “Talking” is too literal. Im convinced there is some kind of abstraction involved.
talking is a stepping stone to either hanging out or hooking up.
hooking up can happen more then once.
dating is letting everyone know you aren’t fully single and somewhat taken.
in a realtionship is solid commitment which is crazy and overrated.
…..well you will never get a real answer from most girls (I of course think I am the expection, but I am sure that I am just kidding myself) because people are unsure of what they want and are not sure what you are thinking, you know the whole ‘communication breakdown’ concept. If you want a fraking answer just ask, “What do you want here?”, maybe you might get somewhere with a simple question. If you don’t ask you might just get stuck in the ‘hanging out’ and ‘friend’ stage forever. Girls are like that.
For me if he askes to see you in any social form- he likes you…. but if you really need the break down
Hanging out(Talking is the same thing)-find attractive and wants to see if things will develop
Dating- at first trying to see if you like each other, then proving that you like each other, then proving to the world that you like each other
hooking up-sex…sex…
relationship- only that one for the time being.
P.S. I hate hi-fives.
This little blog has actually kind of made it more clear to me what I need to do with this guy I’ve been talking too/hanging out/dated a few times. We have not yet hooked up.
And I like what Chambers said about just straight out asking where we are at I haven’t really tried that yet because I don’t want to seem desperate to rush into a relationship because we’ve only known each other for like six months now(three of which we have been haning out and dating).
What gets me is that he’ll always talk about going out more and hanging out more but never initiates the actual getting together but if I remind him and ask hey when are we goona get together to do this he will makes plans with me and follow through.
So aside from me not asking him where we are at and what his interests in me are… I am confused as to why when he sees me he always makes it a point to talk about making plans to see eachother more often but never calls. Then say I send him a txt asking about when we are gonna go play tennis for ex. and he’ll finally call and make plans.
I’m trying to take things at his pace and not rush into anything. Should I wait for him to call or is it ok that I initiate so he’ll follow through in making plans??
Thanks for clearing up the basic “codes” of your gen.
I have heard many “explanations” but your interpretation seems dead on!
Thanks Josh.